Resources for Friends
How to support a friend in crisis can feel difficult to understand, especially when someone you care about is struggling with emotional pain, hopelessness, grief, self-harm, or thoughts of suicide.
Friendship can be life-changing. Sometimes the smallest act of kindness, support, or presence can help someone feel less alone and more able to reach the support they need.
What You Can Say
You do not need perfect words. Honest compassion matters most.
- “I’m here for you.”
- “You don’t have to go through this alone.”
- “Would you like help talking to someone?”
- “Your life matters.”
How to Help
Consistent support and genuine care can make an enormous difference.
- Check in regularly
- Listen without judgement
- Encourage professional support
- Take concerns seriously
In Emergency Situations
Never carry dangerous situations alone. Reaching out for immediate help can save a life.
- Tell a trusted adult immediately
- Contact emergency services if necessary
- Stay with the person if possible
- Do not keep harmful secrets
How to Support a Friend in Crisis
Knowing how to support a friend in crisis can feel overwhelming, especially when you are worried about someone you care about. Many people fear saying the wrong thing or making the situation worse. In reality, one of the most important things you can do is listen, stay present, and take their concerns seriously.
If a friend seems withdrawn, hopeless, overwhelmed, or talks about wanting to disappear, giving up, or harming themselves, do not ignore those comments. Let them know you care and encourage them to speak with a trusted adult, parent, counsellor, teacher, or qualified professional.
Supporting a friend does not mean becoming their therapist. It means helping them connect with people and resources that can provide appropriate support.
Warning Signs That a Friend May Need Help
Friends are often among the first people to notice when someone is struggling. Paying attention to changes in behaviour can help identify when additional support may be needed.
- Withdrawing from friends or social activities
- Significant mood or personality changes
- Talking about hopelessness or feeling trapped
- Giving away personal possessions
- Changes in sleep or eating habits
- Loss of interest in favourite activities
- Talking about self-harm or suicide
Warning signs do not automatically mean someone is suicidal, but they should always be taken seriously.
Additional Resources for Friends
The Suicide Awareness section offers several pages that may help you better understand how to support a friend in crisis and find appropriate support.
You may also find helpful information through trusted organizations:
Frequently Asked Questions
Supporting a friend through emotional distress can bring difficult questions. You may worry about saying the wrong thing, breaking their trust, or not knowing when to involve an adult. These questions are normal, and having guidance can help you respond with compassion and safety.
What if my friend asks me to keep a secret?
If a friend talks about suicide, self-harm, or being unsafe, it is important to tell a trusted adult. Keeping dangerous secrets can place someone’s life at risk.
Can I help even if I do not know what to say?
Yes. Listening, being present, and showing genuine care are often more important than finding the perfect words.
What should I do if I think my friend is in immediate danger?
Contact a trusted adult, emergency service, crisis line, school counsellor, parent, or qualified professional immediately.
Being Present Matters
You do not need perfect words. Compassion, consistency, and genuine concern can make an enormous difference.
If you are worried about someone’s safety, seek support from a trusted adult, crisis support service, emergency service, or qualified professional immediately.
“One conversation filled with kindness can change someone’s entire direction.”